We have been talking about the various behavioral restrictions or modifications in the Sutra 30 . So there are 5 of them . The next or the 4th one is BRAHMACHARY, or abstinence from sexual pleasure . This one is quite difficult ,especially for ordinary person who has family. But one has to understand the process of the desires that lead us to the sexual act . Human beings are the only animals with exception of Apes that engage in sexual activity. The story of the Adam and Eve is most illustrative . The way in which it is explained in the Christianity is not the way I interpret it.When I ask as to what is the sin that we are born with, no one can answer. The sin that Adam and Eve did was to engage in to the act of sex WITHOUT NEED FOR PROCREATION. I don't know if before this act Adam and Eve were reproducing Asexually or not . But the forbidden fruit is the sexual intercourse. So after the act or eating the fruit, they started covering their bodies .(as otherwise looking at each other naked would arouse them sexually.)
Certainly today one does not have power to reproduce asexually as human beings . So engaging in the sexual activity is essential part as otherwise the mankind will not survive. This may be the reason why God created natural sexual attraction between Man and the Woman .So one must limit the sexual act to sexual reproduction only . This sounds quite limiting. So if one could limit the activity to marriage partner , it will help . But today we are having sexual encounters without marriage or even any intention of getting married. This is not conducive to meditation. But even thinking about sex is not good and should be avoided. But we go through a process when a man and woman see each other. So 'PREKSHAN' is the looking or 'checking ' out man or woman . Then if we like what we see , then we think about her or him -called 'SMARAN' . So repeated SMARAN or thought will lead to 'MANA' or getting deeply rooted in the mind . This leads to 'talk' about the man or woman called 'KIRTAN'. So one starts talking about the bodily parts or voice or dress or having sexual jokes or talk about acts .This will lead to 'KELI' or playing games , dating , going to movie or restaurant , holding hands , or engaging in to sexual talk. Once this is successful then comes 'SANKET', where one gives indirect indication of desire to have sex. And the last one is actual act of SEX . One must avoid going down this path or the sleeper slope. So if one avoids the first one then the next will not occur. In today's society one can not avoid contact . So if we avoid repeated thinking and unnecessary contact and talk , then we can be successful.
To do sexual act only when we want to have children , is very difficult but if one can do that , it will greatly enhance the ability to meditate .
Certainly today one does not have power to reproduce asexually as human beings . So engaging in the sexual activity is essential part as otherwise the mankind will not survive. This may be the reason why God created natural sexual attraction between Man and the Woman .So one must limit the sexual act to sexual reproduction only . This sounds quite limiting. So if one could limit the activity to marriage partner , it will help . But today we are having sexual encounters without marriage or even any intention of getting married. This is not conducive to meditation. But even thinking about sex is not good and should be avoided. But we go through a process when a man and woman see each other. So 'PREKSHAN' is the looking or 'checking ' out man or woman . Then if we like what we see , then we think about her or him -called 'SMARAN' . So repeated SMARAN or thought will lead to 'MANA' or getting deeply rooted in the mind . This leads to 'talk' about the man or woman called 'KIRTAN'. So one starts talking about the bodily parts or voice or dress or having sexual jokes or talk about acts .This will lead to 'KELI' or playing games , dating , going to movie or restaurant , holding hands , or engaging in to sexual talk. Once this is successful then comes 'SANKET', where one gives indirect indication of desire to have sex. And the last one is actual act of SEX . One must avoid going down this path or the sleeper slope. So if one avoids the first one then the next will not occur. In today's society one can not avoid contact . So if we avoid repeated thinking and unnecessary contact and talk , then we can be successful.
To do sexual act only when we want to have children , is very difficult but if one can do that , it will greatly enhance the ability to meditate .
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